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You know why half the people don't last in the gym? Because they don't see immediate results. Or they don't see results in the time frame they thought they were going to see them - so they get discouraged and disappointed and feel bad that they just can't seem to get in shape when really they've been getting in shape slowly and quietly, that it just takes a long time to see results even though the results are there.

Sometimes, when you thought you weren't getting anywhere, you were. Maybe you were growing in some way, in some area of your life, without knowing it. And instead of giving up, maybe you just need to see where you've been making positive, subtle changes.

And I can't tell you where you've been making progress because I have no idea and I'm not even sure what I've been saying is right or helpful, but I do know that if you stop looking at what you're not doing and instead focus on what you can be doing, it will help so much more than moping and whining about how far behind you are or what you wanted to get done but couldn't bc of anything and anyone but you.

Basically, instead of focusing on all the time you've wasted or all the time you are currently wasting, instead get your rear in gear and start looking ahead - look at all the time you have, and look at the things you want to get done before the time runs out.

A long time ago, Mom knew someone (Person A) who had a friend (Person B) who was dating someone (Person C). Both B and C wanted to become doctors but neither B nor C had enough money to get through medical school. So they came up with a plan - B would work and send C through college and once C graduated and became a doctor, C would work and send B through college. And then they could get married and both be doctors, doing what they loved. You can see where this is going, right? If you can't, that's fine, it took me awhile too.

Well, the first part of the plan went along peachy dandy. B worked and sent C through college. Then C graduated and decided, yk what? I don't want to work and send you through college. I'm not interested in you anymore, thanks for the degree, ciao. So C left B in the dust and went on his merry way. B was, ofc, crushed. She'd worked and worked and worked to get this guy through so she could go through college and become what she'd always wanted to be. By the time he was out, she was in her 30's. She didn't have any money and nobody was here to help anymore and she was discouraged. She called Person A and was so stressed, upset, frustrated, etc bc she couldn't be a doctor anymore - here she was, in her mid to late 30's, her best years behind her, and to become a doctor would take effort, money, and most importantly, it would take her such a long time she would be in her 40's before she was finished.

And here's the whole point of the story: after hearing the story, and how discouraged Person B was bc she can't do it, Person A said - you're going to be in your 40's no matter what. The real question is, do you want to be 40 with a medical degree or do you want to be 40 without a medical degree?

That, I think, is the most important thing you can remember. If you feel like you're getting older and older and you haven't done what you were going to get done before - the real question is, do you want to be older and have done it, or do you just want to be older and not have done it at all? (sorry, that sounds like it wasn't grammatical but I can't tell)

So if you're disappointed bc you're almost 18 (or maybe already 18) and you still haven't gotten your driver's license - do you want to be 18 with a driver's license, or do you want to be 18 without a driver's license. Because if you have something you want, who cares how long it takes - go get it!

But here's the bigger part of this thing:
Always look ahead. Look ahead at what you want to do, where you want to be, and more important - how you're going to get there, what it takes. This blog is to help you get there, but you need to know where you want to go before anyone can help you. You need direction and you need the drive to go that direction. So stop bothering about what happened, or what is happening. Start bothering about what is going to happen because that's what will affect you in the long run.

If you don't come away with anything else, I want you to come away with this at least: Do things now that will help you later.

Got that?

Do things now that will help you later.

So that if you want a driver's license, get the hours now so that you can get the license later. Do things now that you know will be a help in the future, do everything so that your future will be easier and so that you can do those things you want to do bc you've done the work.

Don't forget it, you need to remember this, you need to keep this in mind as you start growing and taking on new responsibilities:

DO THINGS NOW THAT WILL HELP YOU LATER.

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